On Being Upside Down

One time during a hot yoga practice…

“First you clasp your hand, then slowly rest your head on the floor and while your legs are in downward dog position, slowly bring your legs up, one at a time. Use the wall if you need to.”

“Damn, he made head stand look so easy…” I thought, silently cursing my inflexibility to bend like my instructor.

I leaned my head against the wall. Three years of practice – albeit only a year I did daily, being upside down has been my biggest fear. Slowly, I tried pushing myself up. One leg at a time he said. Imagine crow pose, I told myself.

One push.

Two push.

Three push.

Then I went up suddenly with the instructor’s help.

“I am scared! Omg.” I said to him.

“Stay just like that for ten seconds. Just keep breathing.”

It was longer than ten seconds. But it was the first time I stayed upside down for that long. The last time I did it at home and I let go. I was afraid.

What was I afraid of?

Seeing things in a different perspective. I was so used to being friends with gravity and not against it.

Being upside down shouts change, perspective and different – all the things I dislike.

But like what they say or what my instructor said,

“Being upside down is good. It teaches you patience. It is uncomfortable but that’s life. Life is uncomfortable at times.”

What did I learn from that practice?

A lot but one important lesson:

There is no right or wrong. There is just difference.

You can’t be everything

Idk abt u but since young, I’ve always been taught to pick. 

You can’t have em all so you pick the one you like best. 

You can’t take all courses and thus, you pick the ones you really like. 

It makes the world slightly more organized (still a chaos btw) and people fall into the classes and places they believe they belong. There’s distinctive separation between the “corporate” and the “casual”, plus the “nonchalant” introverts and the “outgoing” extroverts.

They told me to look at successful people and businesses and they said,

“no one who is ever so successful wears many hats.”

Everytime someone says that, my honest opinion deep inside me is, “why not?”

I don’t want to brag about being a jack of all trades. Neither do I want to tell you how good I am at blabla. 

What I am trying to question you who are reading this is,

“Why do we freaking have to pick? When we don’t know and we don’t want to?!” 

Why when we are in turbulence at what we like best, we instinctively insist that we must, we must pick our course of life. 

I mean, if you already know what you want to do is totally FINE.

But what if you are like me – you love everything fascinating (aside from blood and pain)?

Yet, this is a bloody hell of life. 

We gotta pick. 

You either take this or that. 

You want both, you lose them all. 

I still wish I took that karate lessons when I was young. 

Next time if I have a little baby girl, I’ll tell her to run her life. The world is huge. She can be everything. Even a man.

Things to do on Kei Island – Getting there and what to bring

Last week, Two weeks ago Exactly 1.5 months now gosh time flies! I’ve let this post stay dormant for way too long lol.

Anyway, so I went on a 4 night 5 day trip to Kei Island (Perpulauan Kei), an island located 1 hour (typed 5 minutes LOL) away from Ambon. I have actually never heard of this island until cousin G mentioned it and was actually about to plan a solo trip to Bali. I searched it up, stalked the tour company Continue reading “Things to do on Kei Island – Getting there and what to bring”

My Highlights on Singapore’s First Artbox

It might be a bit too late now since the Artbox frenzy is sort of over but I visited the flea market twice two weekends ago so I thought I better write an in-depth post about my experience. Haha.

What is Artbox?

Artbox is a pop up creative flea market famous for having its stores in giant shipping containers. The market had its fame in Thailand and finally, two weeks ago, made its debut in Singapore.

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A Beautiful Paradox

I grew up with this notion of life – that since life is hard, everyone would be equally nice to each other – but I learnt recently that not everyone is nice. We are all victims to our own experience, hurt and eventually we become more and more wary whom we give our uttermost human service aka kindness to.

Believe it or not, accept it or not, we are all money driven one way or the other. We rush to work every weekday or sometimes, on weekends because our work offers income. This income brings food to the table, allows us to spend and live the life we desire.

But what is exactly the kind of life we want? Is life about dwelling a contented, three-story bungalow, driving our dream car or being able to travel everywhere we could without worrying about how much we are going to spend? Or is it about everything listed and more?

Could we unconsciously be vying for power? We want the power to control and the power to make decisions because we are simply too tired listening to the higher-up.

Whatever they are, we thrive to reach those life goals. We take every step we can. We measure every risk we can possibly think of.

Our “dream” life then makes us a goal eccentric individual, which means we cannot be nice to everyone. We have our loved ones and dreams at stake. Selfishness then becomes a necessity.

I reflected on my experience with humans and my countless interaction with every one of them during my travel and coincidental bumps.

I now understand this sad yet powerful thing about humanity – that we can never be 100% kind to each other – yet at the same time, we have to be kind. I now understand this truth as a beautiful paradox.

We have to be kind. But we cannot be too kind.

So where do we draw the line?

Honestly, I still have no idea how. For multiple times I’ve crossed the line I drew and too many times I have retreated and moved two steps back from the same line.

But what I know for sure is the brutality of listening to your gut feelings – not necessarily following them. They somehow already know what you want, what you don’t want and potential catastrophes you might have brushed off.

I emphasized listening not necessarily following because we would never actually fully follow our gut feelings. We simply don’t have the guts too. It is too scary, risky and what if our feelings ended up being wrong? So I don’t coerce obedience towards my instinct anymore. Listening works much better.

In summary, I learn that the perception of life then is not about being right or wrong. It is also not about being rich or poor. Neither it is about living a balanced life. Rather, it is about being entirely certain that sometimes, life just happens to kick you in the butt and throw you up in the sky – we just have to enjoy this beautiful paradox one day at a time.

“My heart is at ease knowing what was meant for me will never miss me, and what misses me was never meant for me.”

Singapore Eats: Wild Honey – Breakfast for Dinner

It’s like revelling in the beauty of Scotts Square because after the Coffee Academics, I found myself celebrating my 25th at Wild Honey, the restaurant right below the cafe in Scotts Square.

It was a perfect spot on a Tuesday night. Singapore is always hectic especially during dinner and lunch time but since this restaurant serves all-day breakfast, it was not a popular dinner choice which makes it a perfect place to chit chat and spend birthdays.

Started our dinner with Brazilian Bites, a warm cheesy deep fried cheese balls. The bites melt perfectly in my mouth. I usually get sick eating too much cheesy food – but not in this case – each bite tastes so delicious.



English

English is your hearty American breakfast. The breakfast plate comes with tasty baked beans, breakfast potatoes, bacon strips, sausage, omelette and your choice of bread.

Boulevard St Michel

The fancy name indeed hints its fancy fillings. Savoury french toast with poached egg covered with parmesan crumble and that green creamy looking sauce is actually spinach souffle which is a delight at every savour.

 

Norwegian

I chose this because it gives the least breakfast feel compared to the rest of the meal. Poached eggs are wrapped with smoked salmon and topped with roes. The cheese, roes, poached eggs, avocado and smoked salmon make a delightful combination. I love it!

Red Velvet Cake

Ended my birthday celebration with this red velvet cake. Their desserts are made fresh daily and albeit not a fan of raspberries, I actually enjoyed the cake. It wasn’t too sweet and the blend of cream cheese, chocolate and cake were a burst of sweet delights.

In Summary:

Total cost per person: $25 – $40

Wifi: Don’t think so.

Will I come here again? Yes