The Misconceptions About Letting Go

 

If I let go, they might not come back.

I disagree. Clinging onto something does not mean they will be yours or they will return. Letting go too doesn’t mean they are forever gone.

Clinging on is just a mere act of desperation. For a spur moment, you might feel secured and assured. But that’s only for a spur moment. Imagine carrying a 100000kg worth of rocks. You fear that if you let go of these rocks you might not see them anymore and they might not return…or you might not find them anymore.

But they are actually slowing you down. They are heavy, burdensome and scarring you. That’s why you have to let them go. Watch these rocks scatter on the ground as you throw them away, one by one. Start to prioritize your happiness, health and well-being. Strengthen yourself so one day, you can carry all these rocks again without them scarring you.

Letting go does not mean you will lose the things you love. Letting go is loving yourself enough to give yourself the time to heal. When you’re well enough, you’d have the strength to be anything and get anything you want.

If I let go, I’m not doing my best. 

In my previous post, I wrote about doing more than your best. Letting go doesn’t mean that you are not doing your best. Letting go means you have to let loose. It does not contradict or stop you from doing your best.

Letting go of negative emotions gives you the chance to focus on the positives.

Letting go of the things you cannot change, like natural disasters, someone else’s emotions, others’ decisions, shows you that the only person you can control is yourself. When you let go, you’re still doing your best but with a shift in emotion, feelings and most importantly, a different you.

Letting go means I’m not doing anything to make things work.

Wrong! Letting go means making things work together with the flow of universe. To let go is to believe. To create your life while feeling assured that all things work for your goodness, to prosper you and not to harm you (Quoting Jeremiah 29:11). Yes, you have to act to make things happen but you don’t have to react to things that do not happen the way you want them to. TO ACT DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO REACT.

Letting go is working hard without worrying. Letting go is pursuing your dream with happiness, in a state of calmness and euphoria.

I believe letting go is a beautiful act of forgiving, loving and entrusting. I let go because I know there are things that are out of my control. I let go because I’m secure enough to work on my well-being and my happiness. I let go because I want to attract people that will build me up, not bring me down.

Today, I sincerely write this to encourage you, who are reading this to let go of things that have been holding you back. Choose to feel light, joy and happiness. Chase your happiness while letting go of the turmoils and negativities that are holding you back.

If you believe in God, trust that when you let go, you let God work His way in you. You let Him work together with you for your divine plan. You’re not slacking off. Rather, you’re working hard but sans the heavy emotions that will only drag you down.

Do. Not. Settle.

“You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle…” – Steve Jobs

If there’s one thing I learnt in life… it is do not settle.

Do not settle for mediocre relationship. Relationship where deep down you know you have to compromise.

Do not settle for anything you feel you’re undeserved of. Because each of us has our values, limits and wants. Do not settle until you find them.

Do not settle for a man that cannot give you what you want. Be it time, happiness, commitment or love. You deserve every single thing you want.

Do not settle when your life is causing you grief. Work hard until you get where you want to be. Visualize your winning, your joy and your happiness. You let go but at the same time, you work hard, press on to reach your goals.

Do not settle. Life is not about settling down and being OKAY with anything. Do not settle for people who are always unavailable for you. Do not settle for things that are making you unhappy. Thrive to the best and never ever give up. Most importantly, constantly seek for things that bring you joy. Because life is so much more fun with dreams and inspirations.

Now some might say… it’s easy for you to say! Wait till you’re my age and you’ll understand how hard it is not to settle. How eventually, you will learn what to do and what not to do. Well, I tell you now, AGE is just a number. I won’t settle. Whatever I’ve experienced or will experience is only a lesson learnt. I will be the best version of me at whatever age I will be. Until then, I won’t settle. I won’t settle for a mediocre me. When I reach your age (any number it might be), I will say, I haven’t settled. And I will still not settle until I reach my goal.

 

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Oatmeal Peanut Butter Cookie Energy Bites

I’ve been a fan of Ambitious Kitchen for a while now. Her recipes have never failed me and I love how easy they are! Two days ago, I was craving for good energy bites and finally made them with her recipe. As usual, they never disappoint!

 

Here’s the recipe with some changes to some ingredients. (Click here for the original recipe)

Ingredients:

  • 8 Medjool dates, pitted
  • 2 1/2 tablespoons water
  • 3 tablespoons pure honey syrup
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 2/3 cup all natural creamy peanut butter
  • 1 1/3 cups rolled oats
  • 2.5 tablespoons chia seeds
  • 2 tablespoons cacao nibs

Instructions (With some changes made):

  1. In a large bowl, stir together oats, chia seeds and cacao nibs. Set aside.
  2. Add dates and water and blend with a blender. Process a few times until dates begin to break down a bit and form a paste. Next add in honey, vanilla and peanut butter; blend again until it begins to look like a wet cookie dough and ingredients are well combined. I used the “grind” option from the blender.
  3. Add wet ingredients to dry ingredients and mix with a wooden spoon. I like to use my hands because it’s much easier to get everything mixed well. I know it’s a little messy, so my advice is to coat your hands with a small amount of coconut oil so that the dough doesn’t stick. Once the ingredients are well combined, form into 1 inch balls.
  4. Freeze for 15 minutes before storing them in an airtight container in the fridge.
  5. According to the original recipe, this recipe makes 15 energy bites. I made 24! I guess because I rolled them really tiny…
  6. Balls will last for 5-7 days or can be frozen for up to a month.

Note: If you make 24 balls like I did, 1 ball will be about 90 calories. Please STOP at 4 just in case you exceed your daily calories intake! I love it so much I was so tempted to eat them all…

Let me know what you think of these yumz bites!!!

5 Life Lessons from Friends

SPOILER ALERT! Read at your own risk

I’ve been a fan of the TV series, Friends for the longest time. I cannot have enough of Joey, Ross, Chandler, Monica, Rachel and Phoebe! It’s been my go-to now every time I feel sad or whenever I need a good laugh. Friends taught me a lot about life, friendship and relationship in general. Today, I thought I should pen them down and share the 5 lessons I’ve learnt from my favourite TV show…

1. Let go, be happy.

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The relationship between Ross and Rachel was so complicated and frustrating – I can definitely vouch for that. But towards the end of the season, finally after 10 freaking years, they got back together. It took them a while to realize that they were meant for each other and that they loved each other. And before this epiphany, they had to date the wrong person and be totally comfortable to have each other as friends.

In one of the earlier seasons, Ross was about to marry Emily and Rachel became upset. She tried to stop the wedding but eventually conceded. Finally, it was Ross that ruined his own wedding with Emily. That’s the beauty of fate. Your heart eventually knows where you want to be and where you really want to go. You cannot work against fate…or your true desire. And that’s how Ross became Rachel’s lobster. Well, sometimes, you just have to do your own thing and let time work its way.

2. One day, someone will love you…plus the fat girl in you.

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The relationship between Chandler and Monica is the perfect example for this! In the show, Chandler’s love for Monica was so unconditional and so perfect that they complemented each other. Chandler accepted Monica’s OCD behaviour and never ever complained about it. On the other hand, Monica accepted Chandler’s broken relationship with his dad and his other feminine, eccentric behaviours… They taught me that a relationship should make you want to improve but at the same time, it should not demean you and devalue your worth.

3. Think simple, think like Joey

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Joey is pictured as the dumbest of all 5 but I beg to differ. Joey’s childlike characters perfectly depict how we should sometimes treat our life. Life is simple. If your recliner is broken, get a new one. If your girlfriend broke your heart, find another one who won’t. You get mad only when someone eats your sandwich. Remember, your modus operandi is to rescue your sandwich!

4. Best friends are for life.
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Because they are the only ones that will be there for you, for your ups-and-downs and for the many things you can never talk to your parents about.

5. Don’t ever stay mad for too long.

Life is so fun to waste your time feeling angry and mad. Be playful, be creative, be sarcastic, and be happy. Like Phoebe said,

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Yukon 2015

Three months ago, I finally booked my trip to Yukon. It was initially undecided. I’ve wanted to stay put in Vancouver after Christmas but finally decided otherwise and conceded to my long-time dream of seeing the northern lights.

The Northern Lights. The first time I heard of it was during my Astronomy class in university – that was also when I learnt to stargaze and fell in love with the enormous sky and its content. The Northern Lights or Aurora Borealis , are the results of collisions between the gaseous particles from the Earth atmosphere with the charged particles from the Sun. Oxygen produces green northern lights while Nitrogen Oxide produces Purple hues. And after the course, it became my desire to see them one day.

I’ve tried catching them here in Vancouver but to no avail. Sometimes, CBC/ Vancity Buzz will write about their upcoming appearance but either I’d somehow miss them or they just don’t appear. One time I even waited somewhere in Whistler till ungodly 1AM to view them but they didn’t appear! So, this time, I chased them all the way to Whitehorse and here are the highlights of my 4 days / 3 nights trip!

The beautiful snow-covered land

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The beautiful Northern Lights on my first night. I thought I wasn’t going to see it since it didn’t appear at all until 2AM. Anyway, the lights were dancing for a few minutes and I felt chill plus goosebumps just by watching them (apart from the temperature hitting minus 30 that night). It was so beautiful that I felt so emotional and almost teared. I’ve never had thought I’d one day see them with my very own eyes. I finally did and will never trade anything for another experience like this.

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Books… more books and books! Give me all time in the world and you’ll find me hiding in a book store or a library. The selection of books in the minute Yukon Downtown is simply amazing. The prices are also extremely reasonable. The underground store (its passage is seen under the “BOOK ORDERS” sign) has crazy great deal of books priced $5 – $10. I was so tempted to get a few books but remember how my shelf is currently full so didn’t get any. Shucks. But I did spend a very long time browsing. 

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Another day of seeing the Northern Lights was still as exciting as the first day. Only this time, the lights danced in the sky all the way until we left. Btw, the sky was darker than pictured. I had to change the focus, shutter speed, ISO etc as to get a clearer view of the green hues. Thus the picture looks like the sky was really bright that night. Nope. It was in fact pitch black.

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The heat in the cabin located near the Northern Lights viewing point. It was so cold that I had to make trips to the cabin to keep myself warm for a while before coming out to capture the lights again. And the heat has never been as appealing as that night.

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Starbucks! God.knows.how.cold.Yukon.is.that.Starbucks.is.very.welcome.

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Moose at the Yukon Wildlife Reserve Park staring at my camera. It was so friendly and I felt so sad seeing it kept behind the fence. 🙁

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The Yukon River. It’s so beautiful. I cannot even imagine. The weather was really cold. That day, it hit minus 35, still the beauty took away the breeze of cold and brought me a sense of appreciation and gratitude – I’m not even kidding. I didn’t think I could stand and stare for at least 30 minutes but I did. Nature is simply amazing, isn’t it?

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Snowmobiling on a frozen lake! The ice hit 6″ deep that day (according to the tour guide) so we crossed the lake and it was such a thrill. I’ve never thought in my dear life I would be crossing a frozen lake with a snowmobile!

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The snow. Whats winter and Christmas without snowflakes and snowfall? Teehee

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Takhini Hot Spring. It was a joy to be immersed in a fairly warm water when everywhere was chilly. I finally felt my freezing fingers.

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The beautiful nights. 

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Now now, I think Yukon has taken a bit of me with its beauty and people…

I’d be back soon!

Ambitious Kitchen’s Skinny Zucchini Muffins

Recently, I fell in love with Ambitious Kitchen’s recipes. Her recipes are easy to follow, use simple ingredients and best of all, taste super delicious! So far, I’ve tried cooking up her

Skinny Zucchini Muffins (which I’ll be writing about today)

Spicy Thai Chicken Peanut Sweet Potato Noodle Stir Fry 

Skillet Cheesy Chicken Rotini with Homemade Tomato Basil

And all of them are superb!

Two weeks ago, I whipped out her Skinny Zucchini Muffins and snapped some pictures to note my journey of making those delicious muffins.

The ingredients are simple. Though it would be much healthier if I had used organic/ low-fat chocolate chips… but I wanted to make do with whatever I have in my kitchen…so Kirkland it is!

I used organic Zucchini and substituted  the whole wheat flour with pure almond flour – which the latter turned out to be a delicious disaster – I’ll explain why later.

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I was so excited that I was using almond flour that I took a picture of it! It turned out to be a beautiful mess like how Jason Mraz would have sang it. lol.

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Anyway, I shredded the Zucchini first just because it was the most cumbersome thing to do.

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Next, I squeezed the shredded Zucchini with paper towel as AK mentioned that it is a very important step…

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Mixed the almond flour with baking powder and baking soda as per instructed…

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Used my favourite local honey from Maple & 36th for this recipe!

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Slowly poured the honey into my bowl of wet ingredients. Btw, I used my two 3 month old frozen bananas for these muffins and they turned out to be the sweetest thing ever after chocolate!

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Made exactly 12 muffins BUT they were super super moist. -Yes the almond flour made them really moist and this is why these are indeed a delicious disaster!

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And here’s how my muffins turned out like… Shapeless, and really moist.

BUT, I LOVE THEM. They were so delicious! Oh, I sprinkled chocolate rice on the muffins just because I am a chocolate lover teehee.

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What I’ve learnt:

Never ever substitute whole wheat flour with pure almond flour. Always do a mixture of both.

Always double the chocolate chips to satisfy my sweet cravings. Unless, I’m on a sweet-restriction diet.

Also, when using almond flour, do not use greek yogurt and apple sauce and substitute milk with almond milk