The Misconceptions About Letting Go


If I let go, they might not come back.

I disagree. Clinging onto something does not mean they will be yours or they will return. Letting go too doesn’t mean they are forever gone.

Clinging on is just a mere act of desperation. For a spur moment, you might feel secured and assured. But that’s only for a spur moment. Imagine carrying a 100000kg worth of rocks. You fear that if you let go of these rocks you might not see them anymore and they might not return…or you might not find them anymore.

But they are actually slowing you down. They are heavy, burdensome and scarring you. That’s why you have to let them go. Watch these rocks scatter on the ground as you throw them away, one by one. Start to prioritize your happiness, health and well-being. Strengthen yourself so one day, you can carry all these rocks again without them scarring you.

Letting go does not mean you will lose the things you love. Letting go is loving yourself enough to give yourself the time to heal. When you’re well enough, you’d have the strength to be anything and get anything you want.

If I let go, I’m not doing my best. 

In my previous post, I wrote about doing more than your best. Letting go doesn’t mean that you are not doing your best. Letting go means you have to let loose. It does not contradict or stop you from doing your best.

Letting go of negative emotions gives you the chance to focus on the positives.

Letting go of the things you cannot change, like natural disasters, someone else’s emotions, others’ decisions, shows you that the only person you can control is yourself. When you let go, you’re still doing your best but with a shift in emotion, feelings and most importantly, a different you.

Letting go means I’m not doing anything to make things work.

Wrong! Letting go means making things work together with the flow of universe. To let go is to believe. To create your life while feeling assured that all things work for your goodness, to prosper you and not to harm you (Quoting Jeremiah 29:11). Yes, you have to act to make things happen but you don’t have to react to things that do not happen the way you want them to. TO ACT DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO REACT.

Letting go is working hard without worrying. Letting go is pursuing your dream with happiness, in a state of calmness and euphoria.

I believe letting go is a beautiful act of forgiving, loving and entrusting. I let go because I know there are things that are out of my control. I let go because I’m secure enough to work on my well-being and my happiness. I let go because I want to attract people that will build me up, not bring me down.

Today, I sincerely write this to encourage you, who are reading this to let go of things that have been holding you back. Choose to feel light, joy and happiness. Chase your happiness while letting go of the turmoils and negativities that are holding you back.

If you believe in God, trust that when you let go, you let God work His way in you. You let Him work together with you for your divine plan. You’re not slacking off. Rather, you’re working hard but sans the heavy emotions that will only drag you down.

Do. Not. Settle.

“You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle…” – Steve Jobs

If there’s one thing I learnt in life… it is do not settle.

Do not settle for mediocre relationship. Relationship where deep down you know you have to compromise.

Do not settle for anything you feel you’re undeserved of. Because each of us has our values, limits and wants. Do not settle until you find them.

Do not settle for a man that cannot give you what you want. Be it time, happiness, commitment or love. You deserve every single thing you want.

Do not settle when your life is causing you grief. Work hard until you get where you want to be. Visualize your winning, your joy and your happiness. You let go but at the same time, you work hard, press on to reach your goals.

Do not settle. Life is not about settling down and being OKAY with anything. Do not settle for people who are always unavailable for you. Do not settle for things that are making you unhappy. Thrive to the best and never ever give up. Most importantly, constantly seek for things that bring you joy. Because life is so much more fun with dreams and inspirations.

Now some might say… it’s easy for you to say! Wait till you’re my age and you’ll understand how hard it is not to settle. How eventually, you will learn what to do and what not to do. Well, I tell you now, AGE is just a number. I won’t settle. Whatever I’ve experienced or will experience is only a lesson learnt. I will be the best version of me at whatever age I will be. Until then, I won’t settle. I won’t settle for a mediocre me. When I reach your age (any number it might be), I will say, I haven’t settled. And I will still not settle until I reach my goal.